Bookmark this page now so you can come back to it again and again. From my experience teaching hundreds of shy people over the past couple of years, both guys and girls, I’ve found the cause of most shyness is a feeling of inferiority. Meanwhile around a girl you find attractive your mind suddenly goes blank and you can’t think of what to say. The solution is, of course, to stop placing so much value on looks.
Does the girl have something other than her looks going for her?
There are plenty of cute girls in the world, but it’s rare to find a girl you can have fun with and one that has a personality that “clicks” with yours.
In order to “catch up,” you need to start to talk to, and become involved with, these girls. The fact that you are less experienced than average does not mean girls do not like you. Remember the first key lesson: The less valuable you think you are compared to someone, the more shy you will feel around them.
It just means that you have some catching up to do because of your shyness or social anxiety. Inferiority makes you feel not entitled to be confident and express your personality.
On the other hand, many of the good looking guys who are shy are stuck alone or with a girl they’re not really attracted to. So the most important thing is to cut out any thoughts that sabotage your confidence or make you inhibited.
This means to notice when you are having self-defeating thought patterns and stop them in their tracks.Many shy people have a constant stream of thoughts that point out what a loser they are.If you constantly think about why you’re a loser, how you aren’t good looking, how you have some physical flaw that needs to be fixed, how you’re a loner with little or no friends, how you’ve never even kissed a girl, etc … By being too hard on yourself and being insecure about your appearance you are constantly reinforcing the idea in your mind that you are inferior to the girl.Sure, you may be attracted more to a good looking girl, but physical looks alone shouldn’t be enough to immediately make you intimidated and won over.I remember back when I was very shy around girls, I would start to really like a girl and start to fantasize about our future together… In hindsight, it seems so foolish, yet so many shy guys do it.The truth is, by having an attitude of feeling undeserving of more experienced girls, then you are only sabotaging yourself.