Still, make sure to have open, honest conversation about your ostomy, how you and your partner feel about it, what things will be the same and what will be different after your ostomy surgery.
Try to understand that your partner is adjusting too. I talked to a woman who asked her husband how he felt about her ostomy, expecting a negative reaction.
You can ask open-ended questions like, “How do you feel about my ostomy? To her surprise he said “I love it, because it allows you to live your life more fully and we can actually go out and do things without having to worry where the bathroom is.” After you’ve phrased your explanation positively to your partner, intimacy may progress at the normal speed.
When it is time for an intimate moment, there are some tips that can make you feel as sexy as ever.
No matter who I’m telling about my ostomy, I always try to put a positive spin on it.
I’m never trying to evoke sympathy, but trying to help someone understand my way of life.
Initial communication about your ostomy with a potential intimate partner should happen before the clothes come off.
I would suggest going on a few dates before talking about the ostomy so the person can get to know you on a deeper level first.
You may also find that your relationship will become much closer and stronger because you have to talk about health and support each other.
The right person will love and support you for who you are, not what you have.
Intimacy can usually be just as enjoyable (if not more enjoyable because you are healthy) with an ostomy as before.
Usually intercourse will be pain free, but if you do experience continuous pain during intercourse talk to your doctor.
Intimacy and intercourse are a part of the human experience.