The option of least risk would be to filter my searches to only return profiles of women who are sure they don’t want to be parents.
My problem with that option is that it also returns a greatly reduced number of profiles.
My advice: find someone who is open to/tolerates your passion.Otherwise, accept the fact that it’s going to be a rare day, indeed, when you find the cute, kind, stable, age-appropriate, emotionally available person who ALSO eats only green foods. A sixty-year-old widow who will only date men 5-10 years younger. Again, there’s nothing wrong with these choices, except to point out that they are choices that are self-restricting.I know you don’t have a magic wand, so I just have to play the hand I’ve been dealt.I’m willing to take a risk by contacting women who list that they are “not sure” about wanting children.Of course, he’s more worried about getting hurt than he is about hurting the woman, but we’ll leave that aside.
The point is that he is, as he pointed out, in a position of scarcity.These choices mainly apply to two sets of people: You’re in a minority in your preferences if you were into BDSM, or were an animal activist, or gave half your earnings to the Pentecostal Church.There’s no judgment against minorities, but we must acknowledge that if you insist that your partner also have your non-mainstream preference, there are going to be far fewer singles from which to choose.I had never really considered NOT having kids before.At first I was dismayed, but after some reflection told him we didn’t need to worry about that just yet and let’s just see how everything else goes.Act with integrity and his pool of dateable women diminishes considerably.