As someone who considers himself smart and direct, take it from me – there’s nothing wrong with these qualities. I think it’s not that these smart, successful women are exactly those things either, but they are perceived that way by some – not all – of the men they come in contact with.
But if it also coincides with being difficult, dating might be a long, tough road for you. The trick to that is knowing how the man you’re with is perceiving you, and being able to tone down or turn off the traits he might find as reason to dump you for someone more agreeable.
But for public figures in the spotlight, facing the world with composure is often a higher priority than facing what's going on internally.
People also told me that I am one of nicest and sweetest people they have ever met.Even though I am 36, most of the people I meet would think that I am only 26.Unfortunately, I have been through all kinds of online dates in the last two and a half years.CEOs, doctors, lawyers, hedge fund mangers, business owners, professional athletes, actors, etc… But right behind my good traits are a series of bad traits.When I am not interested in them, they work for the relationship day and night. Anyone reading this blog can see that: The flip side of being bright is being opinionated.
When I am committed to them and act nice and devoted, they start to look elsewhere. Am I cursed to be alone just because I know how to be kind to women? So how is it that all these successful men are not connecting with all these successful women? Because there’s much more going on than merely a meeting of the minds. The flip side of being analytical is being difficult. The flip side of having moral clarity is being arrogant."At first the alcohol soothed the depression, making it at least somewhat bearable.But the situation progressed into depressive-alcoholic binges in which I would withdraw like a hermit into my apartment." After treating his depression and alcoholism, Aldrin went on to serve as the chairman of the National Association of Mental Health.This doesn’t mean I’m not who I am around men, it just means that I use the same skills in my personal life I learned to use in my professional.There are some meetings I can go into and run the show, and others where I have to be subordinate.That’s what women want in men and they assume it’s of equal importance to them. Men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. If he finds himself constantly hearing all the things he needs to change, he may just determine that he wants a bright woman who is less challenging. But a huge reason I’m with my wife is because she spends her time loving and supporting me, not challenging me on everything from movie tickets, to travel plans, to wake up times. This doesn’t mean you should play dumb, or be weak and needy, no more than the nice guy should start acting like a jackass.