She met her girlfriend in 2013, three years after she came out."I had some close gay friends, so I essentially just jumped into their friend groups, but I think it can be incredibly hard to branch into the scene if you don't know anyone."OUT ONLINEThe internet has become a platform for anonymous confessionals and safe meeting spaces.But despite reports that "hook-up" apps such as Grindr are putting gay bars out of business, in Wellington at least, the hot spots are thriving."Apps and online dating may have some influence on the market but it's definitely not hurting us," manager of Ivy Bar & Cabaret, Steven Mawhinney, says."Our sales are only increasing.In saying that, he's been with men aged anywhere from 18 to 87."It's very varied," Blair says.
Although he offers a "boyfriend experience", he doesn't let work overlap with his personal love life."Business is business, gotta keep that line distinct." GAY AND SINGLE IN THE CITYNew Zealand's cities have always provided more in terms of a homosexual society.Auckland and Wellington, in particular, are known for their so-called cruising areas."Spark has engaged in a systemic and intentional pattern and practice of arbitrary discrimination against gays and lesbians throughout California by denying them full and equal services, accommodations, advantages and privileges in connection with many of its commercial dating services," reads the class-action complaint filed in December 2013.As the Wall Street Journal points out, a California state law known as the Unruh Civil Rights Act mandates that "all business establishments of every kind whatsoever" treat every person within the jurisdiction as free and equal regardless of sex, race, religion, marital status and sexual orientation, among other things.Prostitutes were available upstairs; those in the know would spell out their request via a code involving the placement of cups and saucers.
The Homosexual Law Reform Act, signed by the governor-general in 1986, eliminated the need for such secrecy. As recently as 30 years ago politicians were yelling from the pulpit that homosexuals should "go back to the sewers", so is it any wonder same-sex couples are still reluctant to hold hands in public?
"I thought Christian Mingle was a website for Christians to mingle," wrote one commenter on a forum post about the ruling.
"I guess that's not allowed." "Of course it is," another person replied.
It was the worst abuse he has faced in the 14 years he has been out."That was very much out of the norm.
I can only speak personally, but I feel Wellington is a great city, it's definitely friendlier than other cities around the country, not just towards gay people, but in general."GROWING UPStatistics New Zealand says there is no official government statistic relating to a person's sexual orientation, so it's almost impossible to estimate how many gay people - let alone single gay people - are living in New Zealand.
The guy was so charming and attractive, Blair felt compelled to ask why he was paying for sex."He told me: 'You don't pay a prostitute to have sex, you pay them to leave.'"I thought that was quite cute."The 21-year-old escort sees a different side of the dating scene; men who struggle to find dates, others who are on the fence about their sexuality, and some, like the client referred to above, who are only after one thing.