Love is a verb and lack of action is what makes it stagnate.
He has commitment issues and will never really settle down with me.I’ve come to realize that he is not good for me and have left twice but he has come back every time without promising me a future.Do you see scarcity, lack and limitation around you, or wealth, possibility and abundance?The mindset you choose bears directly upon the success of your love life (and your success in general). "all the good ones are taken" - begets neediness, and neediness is not attractive.It basically means that nothing in the universe has a fixed identity - especially you.
If you're breathing and have a heartbeat and just read this phrase, billions of things changed in your mind and body ago.
So quit trying to defend something that essentially isn't there.
Whether or not you fully buy into this concept, it's a handy notion: with no ego to be rejected, insulted or hurt, you're much more likely to have an open heart and take risks in love.
So this battle is already lost -- if you go into it with the mindset that she's so great (do you really know that?
) and somehow you must have her because she's cute and 'there for the taking.' I would recommend going out with a few other women or just speaking to this one with the aim of finding out who she is (vs impressing her, or trying to pull off some trick to 'get' her).
However, reading the minds of your dates whom I have never seen nor met is not one of those powers. Additionally, trying to parse each individual situation for an ultimate answer doesn't work so well, because there are millions of situations and often no ultimate answer.