If you're not reasonably comfortable with being asked "who were those leather clad weirdo's I saw you with Saturday? To my mind, one of the most effective ways to meet a partner is to advertise on line.Effective that is, if you approach it with a healthy degree of caution, and just a little common sense. Use your imagination and put yourself into a 'virtual' Dominant submissive relationship. these questions and build a picture in your mind of the relationship that you want.I know some people do manage it, but the fact is chat room relationships rarely turn into successful real life ones.
Free membership to most of these site limits the number of ads you can look at and / or respond to in a given period so it's certainly worth thinking about paying for membership to at least one of them.
In most cases a three month membership (which should be plenty) costs less than - pretty cheap when you consider the impact it might have on the rest of your life.
Not bothering to reply to them when they have taken the trouble to do as you've asked is downright rude. You've received a load of replies to you ad, responded to one or two and you think you've found 'the one'. Well that's really up to you, but I suggest a number of emails back and forth about what each of you are looking for, followed by some very long 'getting to know you' phone calls.
Don't be in too much of a hurry - if they really are 'the one', they'll wait.
I personally know a submissive who dedicated a year to an online relationship and when she and her prospective Master finally met, they lasted less than a week. A better way to find that perfect Dominant or submissive, is to hook into the local 'scene' (there's bound to be one) and to attend various club events, play parties, munches and so forth.
However, before you dash off to look up BDSM Clubs in the yellow pages, be aware that many of the folk who attend such events are pretty much 'out there' as far as their sexual proclivities are concerned, and consequently their sense of discretion may not be what you would hope it to be.If you want to really meet a dominant woman, Domme is the best place to start. You can find a dominatrix looking for slaves in your local area right now.Sign up for free today and chat with dommes online. Male slaves, and sissy males, are in high demand amongst dominatrixes. Others are very particular and like to put their new slaves through rigourous slave training to really tame them.Step 3 - Taking it further Okay, so your profile is complete and you just have to sit back and wait for the replies to roll in right? You must also reply to other people's ads - submissives in particular seem to feel that they ought not 'make the first move', but if the Dominants didn't want replies they wouldn't have placed the ad in the first place.Someone has to get this thing going, and by responding to ads as well as waiting for others to reply to yours, you double your chances of connecting with the right person.(A note for submisives - it's not uncommon for personals sites to allow free female members to reply to ads but not to allow free male advertisers to do so - all the more reason for you to reply to ads, and all the more reason for the men to stump up with the cash to become a paid up member.) A few Do's and don'ts: DO: Once you start getting replies, it's important that you reply to every single one of them, even if it's just to say thanks but no thanks.