These other important attributes are what creates someone individuality, and takes them from being just anyone to uniquely them.If I didn't like what I saw, I was quick to swipe left.However, after partaking in my own dating experiment, during which I went on one date every night for a week, and two dates on Friday, I finally reached my ultimate conclusion. I want to preface that for everything I say, I know there are a ton of people who will disagree, and have the relationships to prove it, but as I ventured into and out of the virtual dating sphere I found out a lot about myself.
I don't think this is necessarily true for everyone facilitating these tools, but I do think it's way more common than many people realize.It's another numbing device in the avoidance of ourselves.You can't help, but think, "Damn, where have you been all my life? If by some crazy force of nature you guys do set a date and meet, chances are he is not who he claimed to be, or who you built him up to be.His confident demeanor is replaced with one that is far less interesting, and not having the phone as an easy buffer shows you a much different person than the one you thought you had been chatting with.It's dishonest, dull and way too technical for something that shouldn't be so systematic. I Wasn't Happy While I didn't realize this till months later, I was simply unhappy with my life.
I was using the idea of dating as an escape from my own life because well, it's an easy distraction, and even easier the more venues, or apps, you have to keep the hunt alive.Yes, all those things did and do continue to play a part of who I am interested in, but online they became all I saw, and I left little room to be more open-minded than had I been meeting these gentlemen in person.Sometimes you just don't know you're best angles, and sometimes you do, which is why I always say buyer beware when it comes to what you think you're getting online. I Don't Like Games And that's exactly what all these things are, games.This is why after 6 first dates in 5 days, I not once found myself wanting a second date. I Am Pickier Online Than In Real Life Having someone be presented essentially as a two-dimensional option, rather than a real life opportunity makes them feel much more disposable.I know personally, I looked at everything: from what you said on your profile, to how you said it, to what pictures you picked to best represent you with not just a little bit of judgment, but a lot.There are rules, directions and even moments asking if you'd like to chat, or "keep playing." They say don't hate the player, hate the game, and that is exactly what ended up happening for me.