Set up a time for both of you to be at the same bar, and play out the scenario like you're meeting for the first time.
Before you approach him, flirt with a few guys (totally innocently).
"Once a couple start having sex, hand jobs often stop," says sex educator Sadie Allison, author of Manhandling him will show your dirty desire to take charge.
Plus, you can focus entirely on being pleasured since you're not able to reciprocate," says Gloria Brame, Ph D, a sex therapist in Georgia.
Naughty move: Lie on the bed with your hands tied together, and let him devour you.
Then place it around the base of his shaft, and slowly move toward the tip.
As that hand gets to the tip, start at the base with your other hand. Have Stranger Sex When you pretend you're someone else, you completely change the rules.
"A lot of guys go up and down, but that makes for more pressure on such a sensitive spot, which can be too intense," says sex educator Jamye Waxman.
"Side to side feels more relaxing and arousing." Even naughtier move: Have him tie your hands with a scarf and hang them on a hook on his door (the kind you would hang your coat or towel on) before he tantalizes you with oral.
Then make your way over to him, and introduce yourself as whomever you want to be—like Annette, the sexy exec on a business trip.
Let others overhear your conversation, since some of the fun is performing for an audience.
Give Him a Peep Show Much of arousal is driven by what we see — especially for guys. It lets them know what gets her going and makes them feel like they're doing something illicit by just sitting back and enjoying the show," says sexologist Sari Locker, Ph D, author of Naughty move: On a night your guy is coming over to hang out, masturbate alone just before you're going to see him, but don't let yourself climax.
To bring yourself right to the edge without going over, close your eyes and imagine your guy's lips taking the place of your hand.
Have him start with a tease by holding his first and second fingers in a V, placing them on either side of your clitoris, and massaging in a scissoring motion.