He understands the seriousness of divorce, and he’s taking steps to heal and grow emotionally and spiritually.
However, it’s important that he begins this process he starts dating again.
If I had taken his past seriously and asked some tough questions, we may have not gone out again after the first date.
As I stepped off of the elevator, I saw him straight ahead sitting on a glass-topped table in the hallway. There was extra “stuff” to work through – a whole other person from the past worth of stuff.
Before you date a divorced man, ask these four questions: This seems like an obvious first question.
However, it’s astounding how many people, Christians and non-Christians, get into relationships with people before they are legally divorced.
I imagine this is evidence of our societal apathy towards the marriage covenant.
Today as I listen to single women tell their stories about dating divorced men, I remember my experience well.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.
It was also a red flag that my suspicions were right – we didn’t share the same level of interest in each other.
When the night was over I went to his hotel room to see if he was there. Then he said, “Here I am a 34-year-old man at a singles’ retreat.” That’s when I knew that dating someone who had been married was more complicated than dating someone who had not.
Not only does an adequate amount of time need to pass before someone starts dating after a divorce, but that time should be purposeful.
Participating in professional counseling, mentoring, and support groups, ideally Christian-based, shows a man’s humility, maturity, and leadership.
If it’s our desire to treat marriage as a covenant between two people that represents Jesus’ covenant with the Church, then we must respect marriage.