The last thing I want, at 51, is another relationship in which I can't be myself sexually -- or to spend time with someone hoping that the sex will get better, then being disappointed when it doesn't. If a grown man is going to lose respect for me because I'm transparent about sex, then he isn't someone I want to be with anyway. The guy (or guys) you're meant to be with will appreciate it and you don't need to be concerned about the other ones anyway.
I'm talking about sexually charged woman who believes that good sex is a vital component of a romantic relationship and doesn't want to settle for anything less.
My opinion about sexual transparency is practically heresy in the heterosexual dating advice world, where women are routinely admonished for letting it be known that they like sex.
This kind of reductionist thinking is horribly unfair to both sexes and, IMHO, is one reason men and women don't trust each other.
Women are socialized to believe that men are jerks and men resent women scrutinizing them for covert jerkiness.
But despite the potential risks, two experts in the field say there is no need to shy away from online dating as long as precautions are taken.
Nick Tsinonis, co-founder of Scamalytics, which creates software designed to prevent scammers from targeting people on online dating sites, offered a range of advice as to how to stay safe while interacting with a prospective date online.
Where I do agree with dating coaches is on the importance of marketing.
You have one shot -- a fleeting shot, given the cyber candy store otherwise known as online dating -- to make yourself stand out.
Because women are essentially telling them they can't. Women may pretend to be less sexual than they are for fear of not being taken seriously.
They might also engage in hard-to-get games to "keep men interested." Men often pretend they want a relationship in order to get sex (because they're taught they can't they want sex), spinning dreams of a rosy-hued future which will vanish once they realize the woman they've been making promises to expects them to be kept.
When the only right way to be is the way that feels right for After what may be decades of commitment and teamwork in a marriage, couples often reach a point when they stop viewing sex as a necessity in a relationship now built upon the strong tenets of trust, friendship and love.