While I can’t say that every IFB church is run in a spiritually abusive manner since that would be an impossible claim to knowledge, I can easily infer, based on my experience with multiple IFB churches and based on others who I’ve talk to or shared their stories on this site, that most are.
Since leaving the IFB in 1999, I have encountered many people who have come from not only IFB churches, but also other Christian churches with similar experiences of spiritual abuse.
I’ve thought about it a lot and the best explanation I can come up with is this: ridicule. When “annoying” kids like this go to a traditional school, they’re ridiculed. But when one of those “annoying” kids is homeschooled, no one makes fun of their outfits that don’t match.
And if someone else tries to tell you that any child of mine isn’t going to be at least a little weird no matter how they’re educated, they’ve lost their minds. Why is this perception of the weirdo homeschooler so pervasive? I mean what people mean when they say that homeschooled kids are annoying.Why is it that despite the clear academic achievement of most homeschooled students, the fear of them “acting like that one weirdo guy I knew when I was a kid” is enough to turn otherwise supportive folks against the idea? Same parents, same environment, same rules….completely different reactions from their children. I mean kids who ask too many questions and know too much information and like certain stuff and refuse to like other things and don’t care what other people think about their silly hobbies and their know-it-all-ness.The idea of being ostracized by a group of people that they don’t really like anyway no longer sends them into a panic.If they spend their whole childhood trying to be something they’re not or believing that what they are is weird and weird is bad, they’ll enter adulthood with those same perceptions, that same lack of self-confidence.) kids in rural southwest Michigan in a fixer-upper they bought sight-unseen off the internet. Dwija Borobia lives with her husband and their five kids in rural southwest Michigan in a fixer-upper they bought sight-unseen off the internet.
Between homeschooling and corralling chickens, she pretends her time on the internet doesn’t count because she uses the computer standing up. Between homeschooling and corralling chickens, she pretends her time on the internet doesn’t count because she uses the computer standing up. They must either hide their true personality and inclinations in order to be accepted or they’re pushed to the fringes and made to feel abnormal. Made to feel less likable than those who keep their ideas and opinions to themselves or fail to form any to begin with. No one looks at them askance when they know every answer to every question and are eager to share their knowledge. That their interests are boring and a waste of time?Made to feel that convictions and fascinations are stupid and that pop culture is the only culture. They mostly don’t even know they’re doing it, I assure you. When an annoying kid like that finds a new hobby and wants to learn everything they can about it and talk about it incessantly, no one treats them like there’s something wrong with pursuing an interest like that, no matter how dull it may seem to the other members of the homeschool classroom. That they need to wear a certain thing and buy a certain thing in order to be worth people’s time?The focus of this site, therefore, is the issue of spiritual abuse and deception in the IFB churches.This site also has a secondary emphasis on other Christian churches, but will mostly focus on the IFB Denomination. This site is dedicated to exposing the Mind Control, Manipulation, Deception, Spiritual and Emotional Abuse, Heresy, Legalism (“Phariseeism”), and Authoritarianism behind the Independent Fundamental Baptist Denomination (IFB).