Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.
Unfortunately, some people don’t fully experience and process each stage as an opportunity for personal growth or to make a healthy evaluation about the relationship or about themselves.
There is no need to rush through this important stage and every reason to go slowly.Stage 4: Commitment or Engagement At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner’s values, life style, and goals for the future.Some of those perpetual issues or differences such as free-spending or frugal, neat and orderly or sloppy and disorganized, interested in lots of time together or more involved in outside activities begin to emerge.At this stage of the relationship, couples will take note of the differences and may even begin to complain or attempt to problem-solve.“ Women have a tendency to ask this question before men, even though both may be wondering about the answer to this question.
Pushing for an answer; however, may cause real problems in the relationship.
"To see a marriage that's functioning, not in a way that's perfect because there's no such thing, but in a way that is about people who are really powerful and committed is something that we haven't seen on TV and that really interested me," Daly told E!
News."Marriages on television always suck and this one doesn't," he added.
Going slowly in making any decisions about a relationship are more likely to be better ones than moving quickly (unless it is clear that the relationship is not a good fit).
Stage 3: “Enlightenment” and Becoming a Couple During this stage of a relationship, hormones are calming down and reality sets in. Trust is stronger and more intimacies may be shared at this stage as couples take away some of their “best face” and allow themselves to act more naturally and relaxed.
As intimacy develops between the two people, more self-disclosure emerges, both verbally and nonverbally as couples act in ways that are more like how they are in their daily life.