Researchers don’t recommend that undetectable gay and bi men have sex without the usual methods of protection, for example.
Along with that is something I like to think of as "boomer enlightenment": a realization that our days are numbered and precious, and divorce might be preferable to staying in an unhappy marriage.
Finally, there are more women in the workforce than ever before, giving them the economic autonomy and freedom that more easily allows for divorce. Finkel, a professor of social psychology at Northwestern University and coauthor of a study of online dating, thinks highly of this method of meeting potential mates. It is a marvelous tool to meet people you might not have otherwise met," he told
Waxman also dispels the common myth that all men are looking for younger women, saying that there are plenty of men looking for women around their own age and that "with age comes clarity." I have my share of divorced friends. Others are eager to date but afraid to dive into the dating pool. And then there are those who have taken the plunge with an open mind and heart, and continue to have fun, new adventures. But, one word of caution to those reentering the dating scene: practice safe sex.
We've told our teenagers this for years, but it's not just important for teens.
And if you're a woman who prefers the hirsute to the hairless, there's a even a site for that. No, it wasn’t to find a mate, but to see if they offered any advice to the midlife dating crowd.
There, Barbara Waxman, MS, MPA, mentions something that I wouldn't have considered as a clue to compatibility: ask a potential date which section of the newspaper he or she reaches for first. Reach for the travel or sports section—well, that's a given that the person is into, um, travel and sports.In 1990, fewer than one in 10 people who divorced was 50 or older; by 2008, it was more than one in four. Some couples meet in high school or college, settle down and marry young.It's not just the Maria Shrivers and Arnold Schwarzeneggers or the Tipper and Al Gores of the world who are splitting up and taking the tough emotional journey of divorce. Busy lives building careers and raising children cement the marriages—but perhaps only for so long.Among gay men especially, the reality is that condomless sex outside of their primary relationship or marriage does happen with regularity.A third of the HIV-negative partners in gay couples reported having condomless sex with someone other than their primary partner, while just 3 to 4 percent of straight participants admitted the same thing.That’s the threshold at which they declared a person stopped being “undetectable.” Perhaps unnerving for anyone trying to keep their viral load down, that was the case for 16 percent of couples.