It’s time to evaluate our behavior as daters to determine if we’re causing our own dating failures.
Now, I’m no dating expert, but I know what turned me off.
Unless, of course, he/she is -- and then you should specify that.Using your profile to list all of the traits you DON'T want in a partner You don't want drama. It's okay to make your list of "must haves" known, but coming at it from a negative standpoint makes you seem aggressive. Answering a message in a way that doesn't promote further conversation If we write to you and your reply doesn't include a question, it's a hint that you're not interested.” My friend wasn’t looking for “kink,” at least not the kind this guy was selling.She was simply trying to express what she was looking for when it comes to sex with her partner Yet another message received by a female friend: “I’m here to fuck. ”The Fix: Use a dating site designed specifically for people who are looking for the same type of relationship you are.There's also no need to discuss the amount of "luck" we're having on the app or how long we've been using said app. Dropping in lines like "Hey gorgeous" or "Hey beautiful" This just feels ick, even if you mean well. Using profile pictures that feature you with a child The strategy behind the idea makes sense.
Listing your height and nothing else in your profile Cool that you're 6'4", but when that's all you've told us about you it makes it hard to start a conversation. Using old photos or relying only on group shots Where's Waldo is an adorable series of children's books. Ditch that picture of you playing lacrosse in high school or the shot of you and your 20 closest friends in favor of a recent solo snap. We see you with a kid and it sends a message to our brains that you'd be a great father, cue ovary explosion.Also, contrary to popular belief, height isn't everything. However, in reality it just confuses us and gets us thinking about whether we're ready to be a stepmom.Listing no information at all in your profile Favorite movies? Skip the niece/nephew shots unless you make it explicitly clear that the kiddo isn't yours.What he didn’t tell me is that I would meet a lot of those frogs on online dating sites.(Okay, online dating was a bit unheard of at the time, but that’s no excuse for a psychic, right?These are the top three online dating mistakes I saw men making and my suggestions for how to stop making them: Mistake #1: Being the creepy guy who seems to only want sex Unless the person’s profile indicates sex is one of their top topics of interest, wait until you get to know each other before bringing sex into the conversation.